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We have heard about how people make sacrifices for their love. The big question is would you do this? If yes would you expect appreciation and acknowledgment for this? Would the other person be willing to make the same changes for you? or is it just one sided? These are questions you need to ask yourself before you take the leap into making a change in your lifestyle and behavior.

Granted some changes are good for you too as a person but making changes just to make another person feel happy may not necessarily be a long term solution. The learning process to change starts with awareness of the fundamentals of the situation. Study your situation and understand what needs to happen. Map this out on a piece of paper and work with your partner to come up with resolutions that can be kept rather than being the sacrificing lamb. If you don’t feel comfortable to associate with someone but your better half wants you to understand if making this change will improve both your lives. If making this change is to gain accpetance in society than may be you are making the wrong move as its a change that is artificial and for people that may not necessarily impact your life.

If making a change is to spend time with your love then make the change to spend time with her/him but be aware that the other side is making an equal effort to spend quality time with you and is willing to share this journey. If this change is to fulfill the other person’s needs where the other person does not necessarily hold the same place for you then the long term make cause additional issues and challenges.

If you need a personality change to be with someone, then this person is not necessarily right for you as they don’t love you for who you are but they love you for the image that they have created in their mind. If you need to make a change in family lifestyle because on person cannot adjust to the lifestyle that you have been brought up with then making this change will only hurt everyone else who is party to this relationship. Think carefully before you make that promise to change as sometimes it may not be the most wise solution.