The love of my life should be my best friend - Is this reality or a myth?
Many times we read novels and books or watch a movie and base our feelings and emotions of what we like our relationship to be. It does not necessarily turn out to be that way , this results in disappointments. Here are a few myths that may not necessarily hold true in your relationship or marriage so be conscience about it
My wife/husband or My girl/guy should be my best friend:
Yes all of us love to have our best friend as our husband or wife but this does not necessarily happen in reality. Each person is cut out differently. You may feel more comfortable to share your inner self with someone who is not in a relationship with you. This could be your school mate, your colleague at work, your dad, your mom, whoever. You cannot afford to force your partner to tell you all their feelings and emotions specially when they don’t feel its right to do so.
Women in particular want their husbands to be their best friends. They expect them to reveal everything that happened in the day in detail and chat with them for hours. Men rarely think this way and you need to respect this.
The reality is that when you both met you were attracted to each other for several reasons this could be because of sexual attraction, you saw the other person as very responsible, you saw financial security in this person, you felt this person would get well with your family, you felt this person had a stable life, you felt you could have your freedom with this person, etc
Your best friend on the other hand may be someone who thinks just like you, is laid back and takes things with a pinch or salt, they could be controversial and not believe in society rules, may not be financially stable, etc
The reality is you cannot force someone to be your best friend. Its either there or not. There have been great case studies where couples have a great married life even though they are not best friends. Couples can have a great time with each other even though they don’t see the world exactly in the same way. So do your self a favour and chill out with your partner and relax if they are not your best friend.
Image Credits: Elmo Alves
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