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Recently we have received a flood of emails asking us for advice on the topic or Love and relationships. We took time to ask around and give some tips on the reality of life. Sometimes when you are in love you cannot see further if any of you reading this is in the same situation hope you can get some insight.

Silesh asked: We are in love for last 5 years…now suddenly i feel my GF is interested in someone else through her Orkut Profile…I read one of her scrap messages posted and this guy was telling her what a nice evening it was with her. The reason for this doubt is because that same evening she told me that she was busy helping her mom at home, I asked her and sahe told me “i am only yours” but i can’t think of anything else now…this is eating me…what to do? Please help me

Advice: Silesh we spoke to a few members in the chat room and here is what others feel about your situation you don’t know for a fact that she is cheating on you. If you doubt her and have confronted her then the only thing you can do now is watch her behavior. if she avoids meeting up with you often or is not very much engaged when she is with you. Then you know there is something wrong. Take time and understand if this is due to family pressures or she is not happy with you. A girl will only make the jump if she is sure the other branch is strong. She may be playing you and buying time. Don’t let her use you be strong and tell her that you cannot handle the relationship and see here reaction. if she feels revealed then you know she really is not wanting to be with you. Accept the facts and move on. We know its easier said than done but that is reality.

RockKid: hi.. i have a frnd that i met online … we share a lot with each other over chat and fone. We chat every day and she shares her past life. She has recently broken up with her guy and feels that we may be the right match. I have never met her.. but feel she’s the one.. how to know if the she loves me or not?

Advice: Hi Rockkid this is a tricky question to know if she is the one without meeting her. Its important to keep an open mind arrange to meet her, get to know her face to face, spend time with her for a couple of months as friends. Remember she may be having a rebound effect where she is wanting to latch on to someone else because she has no one at this point. Let her get back to normal she may think she is normal and over the relationship, but trust us this takes a lot of time. be patient and a good friend and if this relationship is really god sent then it will happen in due course of time. So for now meet up with her and start speaking in person.

Loving guy: My wife and i got married even though her parents did not approve of marriage, they wanted her to marry a rich person with status. We were married for 2 years and had a lovely son. When i would go to work her friend would visit her,who i believe has shared the bed with her. When our son turned one she asked me for a divorce and married this friend. She left me and my son and its been 3 years now, no contact. If i call her parents they tell me to forget her. I am living with my son with expectation that my son will get back his mom. Can we expect her to return back? I am 34 years old and she is now 29 years.

Advice: Firstly our heart goes out to you and your son. You are a very kind hearted person who still hopes for the best and is ready to accept your wife with an open heart and mind. Sadly the reality is a bit different. You wife is a weak person and she has run away from shouldering responsibilities, if she has not been in touch with you for 3 years even when you have tried to make contact then she probably will not be coming back home. Don’t give your son a dream and expectation that she will be returning as later on in life he will hate you for telling him a lie. Tell him the truth he is old enough to be able to understand and its better now than when he is in his teens. As for you please move on, you are still young and there are many girls out there who will not look at you a a married divorced man with a child but will look at you as an individual. We understand its not that easy in India and even if you don’t find someone atleast find friends that you can share your good moments with.

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