Is your guy shy,how do you help him be comfortable with you?
So you like this guy but he is very shy and you too are to some extent. So how will both of you ever know if you are meant to be. We were asked this question by email and did a little bit of digging to get a few answer on the internet to assist people who may also have come across this situation. Use these tips to get to know each other well and have a fun filled friendship which hopefully will blossom into love.
Steps
1. Someone needs to be the one to approach the other person. Well you know that he is too shy to even do this so this is your chance to be the gutsy person. Approach him to be his friend. Do not approach the guy with the idea to date him, he will run away. Make sure you are not with a group of friends when you speak to him this will just make him feel more uncomfortable.
2. Speak on topics that are general such as what movies you have watched recently, Whether he is a fan of cricket, if you are not a cricket fan then ask him why he likes the game, what activities he likes doing, understand what he likes and does not like and then speak on the topics that are interesting to him.
3. Tell him about yourself, this is important so that he feel that you can be trusted, you don’t want to this conversation to be like an interview. Once he has spoken to you for a while make sure to thank him for his time and ask him if he would be interested in continuing this conversation on another day. Request him for his mobile number and when he does call that mobile there and then and when it rings cut it and smile and say” there now you too have my mobile, txt me when you have time to catch up for a cup of tea or coffee”
4. Once you leave the scene make sure you did not have your friends spying on you waiting for you so that you can all gossip. The reason for this is because you don’t want him to notice this behavior as he may feel that you are making fun of him so be careful. The next day send him a friendly txt message telling him that it was nice speaking to him.
5. After a few days give him a call or txt him and say that you will be at a particular place at this time and whether he would want to catch up for a friendly chat. It may take him a few invites before he gathers the guts to invite you so be patient. Always arrange the dates on days that are non working days so that you can be sure its a convenient time to meet.
6. After having gone on a few dates then gradually introduce him to your friends. It needs to be a slow process so that he gains confidence. Make sure you introduce him to friends who will respect him and not make fun of him.
Hope these tips are useful to get you started.
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