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Ok so the time has come where you are going to be married very soon. It does not matter how you have come to this point but if you plan getting married you want to make sure you are marrying someone that you can spend your life with. How marriages took place in the past lets leave that as case studies and be practical. India is evolving every day and you as a person have certain values and ideas that you have grown up with. Make sure the person you are going to marry has a similar sense of values and ideas.

The family background may be similar, religion may be similar, caste and social status may be similar but what is in your mind and what is in the mind of the other person should also have a similar wavelength. Remember you cannot change a person so don’t assume that they will change for you. The process to follow is some what like an exam you need to understand what you want in life, who you want to live your life with, family values, traditions etc.

Take a pen and paper and list down all the words that come to your mind such as respect my parents, be able to cook for me, be able to be my friend, is down to earth, does not like too much fashion, is career minded, looks nice, etc

Then rank these words from a scale of 1 to 5 where 1 is very important and 5 is not at all important

Ask questions to your self such as:

Many guys go for girls who look good. Appearances do matter but look beyond appearances as its the maturity, can do attitude, willingness to take risks, supportive nature that will pay off in the long run.

The process to select a girl or guy as your life partner is a tough process. Its more difficult than appearing for an exam or applying for a CEO position as it involves your life. Tell your parents what your requirements are and define your selection criteria that you made a note above of in your mind and heart so that when you start meeting the matchs you are know exactly who meets that scale. Be prepared to also be rejected by the other party as remember it works both ways.

Some of the questions that you could ask this person are:

Don’t judge this person if they have had a relationship in the past. Its quiet common in today’s world to have an affair. The fact that this person has been open enough to tell you about it shows courage and willingness to be truthful to you. Respect this

At the end of the day its your life and the life of the other person. Make sure that you make the decision by yourself and not due to family pressures. Once you have made up your mind give the relationship 100% and be a team and work with each other.

All the best!!!

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