Aren’t you lucky you don’t have to spend the rest of your life with such a non-committing guy! He didn’t have the courage to speak to his family for you…and is going to ruin his life and potentially the life of two other women!

He is too weak to go against his family’s wishes, especially his father. So his response was, he has to do it to make his family happy. He seems to be procrastinating the whole thing for as long as possible…and I am still in love with him, and wish like anyone else would…that I could marry the person I spent so much time with.

He also mentioned…if he doesn’t love the girl, he’ll just leave her and marry another…he speaks about her as if she is just an object to have sex with. In this case…this is a person who doesn’t need to be in an arranged marriage. He never treats me or speaks to me in this way…cause there is more meaning…so you would think…stupid family pressure!!!

it purely depends on the person’s POV. if you’re okay with it then go ahead.

and as for sex on the first night… well, that’s a tough one.
all i can say is flirt like you would normally and try not to get too touchy..

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…from experience the sex is the most incredible close feeling and experience if you really love the person and they return the feeling…so you are setting you self up for just settling in life…when things arent your choice like arranged marriage… your not living your life but just going through the motions in safe mode…but if you are able to really love before, then marriage is the greatest !!

my friend is indian..she says she only knows one happy indian couple that was arranged(and they kinda liked each other before the wedding)..she says her parents were never happy nor her friend parents..also pakistan and india have high rates of prostitution..much higher than the usa…pakistan is the country where the search term porn is used the most according to google stats…bahrain in the middle east is like a suburb of prostitution for KSA ..why is that.. if arranged marriage is so great?

you also stated…people who date you then marry you have his/her own agenda..pretent to be in love…really you are naive..it seem you have been listening to some gossip with out having any experience nor bothering to do research on these cold monsters b/c you never talked one or know happy couples that dated, fell in love, and got married with no agenda…just love and marriage…it happens more often than not in the west…actually it is less risk for a man not to be married in the west since the laws favor the women…so it would make no sense to pretend to be in love to marry the person….the only people with agendas are the parents and family of the arranged bride/groom and who want the couple to pretend to be in love so the parents can feel happy…

please wake up and break free from your limited, narrow thinking…filled with assumptions based on rumors created to quell you into submission and used to have you give up your true self not even allowing you to find it…please do not claim i suffer from culture insensitivity because…in history there has been many cultural practices that are flat out cruel, violent, and stupid..it doesnt mean we have to accept or condone them …arranged marriage is from the dark ages… if you want to keep it..give up your cell phone, computer, car and electricity and go live in a village like its a thousand years ago ..because arranged marriage is from the same thinking and behavior as that time !!!